How To Stop Watching Porn: Unconventional Ideas To Help You Quit

    If you clicked on this article, I’m sure you want to know how to stop watching porn. Nobody wants to feel like they have no control over their own actions, especially when it’s something so degrading like porn. That’s just the hard truth – porn sucks. It’s harmful, useless, and it infiltrates your whole life by getting you used to cheap dopamine.

    Quitting porn will quickly improve your life immensely, so if you feel like you’re not living your best life – it’s time to stop watching porn.

    You can stop watching porn on your own, or make it 10x easier by joining my exclusive community led by licensed therapists who specialize in helping men quit porn. Either way, you should quit right now. If you want help, schedule a free consultation call here. 

    Here are some random, unconventional ideas to make sure you stay on the right path. Sometimes all we need is a bit of non-toxic tough love to motivate us. 

    Realize porn is for losers

    Porn is meant to make you feel like you’re having sex or like you’re watching someone have sex. But primarily, it’s meant to make you experience something through the computer screen. That’s why POV and VR porn are so popular. So you’re essentially trying to live someone else’s life through porn, and let me tell you – it’s not a good life. Porn actors and actresses are often people coming from broken homes, living the tough life (not talking about the 1% who are actually making great money and are happy with their job). Just ask yourself, what kind of men and women do porn as a career? Rarely it’s the ones who are fulfilled by it, and most often it starts out of desperation for money.

    Realizing that I watch porn because my life is boring made me feel lame. It took me so long to fully comprehend that nobody is coming to save me, that nobody is coming to make my life better or more interesting. I figured that if I don’t change, I’ll look back at my life one day with regret. 

    I didn’t know what exactly I wanted to do, what my mission or purpose was. But more importantly, I knew what I didn’t want my life to look like. Staying home in my room, all alone, watching porn, playing video games, and eating junk food. That was my reality. But I didn’t want to be that guy. That’s what made me driven to finally change my life. It was a long, uncomfortable process. But I knew I had to stop selling my soul for fake sex.

    Stop whining

    As I said many times before, if you want to stop watching porn, and you’ve been watching it religiously for a long time – it won’t be easy. 

    So many guys email me whining and asking the craziest questions. For example: 

    1. “I really want to take a peek, is it bad if I do that?”
    2. “Does it count as a relapse if I watch but I don’t masturbate?”
    3. “Is it okay if I do it once a week?” 

    There are literally only two reasons why anyone would ask something like that. Either they don’t really want to quit porn for good, or they’re trying to quit the wrong way. 

    If you don’t want to quit porn – then stop wasting your time because you won’t successfully do it unless you wholeheartedly want to.

    If you do, then figure out if you’ve taken all the necessary steps to quit porn. Sitting there in the comfort of your own privacy and staring at the screen means you’re allowing your urges to eat away the little motivation and willpower you have.

    Willpower is not enough to beat an addiction, or a habit that gives you pleasure. Imagine someone with a drug addiction sitting for hours in front of the substance they’re addicted to. Sooner or later they will relapse. Nobody has enough willpower to sit through that.

    You must purposefully identify and remove yourself from any environment that could lead to a relapse. This isn’t simple, this often isn’t fun either, but it’s necessary.

    During the first few days, you’ll most likely become quite manic with all the excess of energy that your body is used to releasing. Seize that moment and do something with it. Workout, go for a walk, even if it’s for 15-20 minutes. 

    To make sure you’re not bored during your walk, jog or workout – listen to a free podcast. I recommend David Hoggins on Joe Rogan’s podcast (link #1 & link #2). Between those two podcasts there’s literally over 4 hours of content. Listen to that stuff and get out of your house whenever you have an urge. 

    Your overstimulated brain will probably find an excuse because doing that is either too boring, or it’s too cold outside or some other reason why you can’t do it. All I have to say is – stop whining. Norwegians have a saying: “There’s no such thing as bad weather, only bad clothes!”

    Reward yourself 

    A lot of men resort to doing something productive when they get an urge, but maybe that’s not you. Maybe you’re one of those people who get motivated when they feel rewarded. I say it doesn’t matter what the strategy is, as long as it personally works for you.  

    You can reward yourself in many ways, and it doesn’t have to break your budget. Have a movie night. Teach yourself how to cook one amazing meal – both the main course and dessert (this will come in handy if you want to impress a lady (or ladies)). Poker night with some buddies, going for a hike. Or you can play your favorite video game. 

    If you can afford to really spoil yourself, I’d recommend getting a personal trainer. Quitting porn is a valuable investment into yourself, so if you have a fat budget, treat yourself right during this time. Or instead you can volunteer at a local shelter – guaranteed way of making yourself feel good and killing time while you’re letting your brain slowly rewire. The goal is to do something that will make you feel good, that you don’t do often.

    Enjoying the little things might not work right away, but just continue doing it and soon you’ll find yourself on the brighter side of life. 

    Become a freaking badass

    If you’re anything like me, this is the way. I’m all about hardmode. I’m all about doing the right thing, no matter how tough, how unpleasant and how uncomfortable it is. I’ve found that once I’m comfortable, my brain gets progressively less happy.

    If you want to become a literal badass, the first step is to accept that you are fully in charge of your life, no matter what your environment is like – we all have the power of choice. It’s uncomfortable and you might want to blame the society, people around you, luck, fate, but the truth is that you have a choice. 

    Your first choice should be to recreate yourself, and I mean everything about yourself. This involves significant mental and physical work, a complete identity shift. Don’t be a man who’s trying to quit it, become a man who doesn’t watch it at all – identify yourself as someone who doesn’t participate in that type of activity. 

    Next choice is to promise yourself that you’ll always be honest and true to yourself. No more bullshit, no more excuses. Face yourself, and accept that if you’re going to get to where you want to be it will take time, effort, sweat and tears. When you look into the mirror, that’s the only person you’re not allowed to lie to. 

    If you can embrace the discomfort of constantly pushing yourself to change for the better, quitting porn will only be the first out of endless pursuits in reaching your full potential. Progress, growth, evolution – let this become what drives you.